Relationship Problem

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Registered: 05-17-2004
Relationship Problem
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Tue, 05-18-2004 - 12:02am
Me and my ex-boyfriend broke up about a month ago, we have not stopped talking. The reason why we broke up was because he feels that I deserve someone better then him. He is always busy and works a lot, so he can't spend a lot of time with me. We decided to just be friends, but we call each other the person that we love. He calls me every night and we talk for hours, we have both agreed not to date other people because we still have strong feelings for each other. We are still intimate, which confuses me a lot. Is like we have a relationship, but we just don't have the titles(girlfriend-boyfriend). The other day he said, "I still have hope that one day we can be together and move on with our relationship." He is 6 years younger than me, but he is so mature. He always tell me that he loves me and that he is happy with me. I feel that our relationship is not meant to happen right now because of his busy schedule and mine. In a way, we both hope for the future. My concern is that I'm afraid that I will never have the title that I want. Are titles important in a relationship? I love this man a lot, but I'm afraid of letting my guard down and get my heart broken. I don't know what to do, continue with this relationship or end everything with him and move on with my life. I need help!!
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 12:32am
maybe if you stopped sleeping with him you'd find out what the real deal is.

OR, you could stop sleeping with him and take some control over the situation and decide whether you want to be his "back up".

when a guy tells you he's not good enough for you BELIEVE HIM.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 2:15am
When a man says he isn't good enough for you - believe him! He should know. Basically, he broke up with you but wants to continue to get the "benefits" of your company. If thats all you want...then what is the problem? And if its not, why aren't you telling him exactly what you want...and not settling for less than it?

I was in your position for 3 yrs and let me tell you - when you find someone else, he'll be on your doorstep telling a sob story about loving you and wanting you back. And you know what it is? SELFISHNESS. Plain and simple. It all about taking and no giving...

Good luck whatever you decide.