relationship @ work

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Registered: 05-18-2004
relationship @ work
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Tue, 05-18-2004 - 10:06am
I recently have got closer to this guy at work, we work together and have been for the last 2 years but the last couple of months we have talked about sex, we have gone out a couple of times but never had sex because I didnt want to complicate things at work. Now I am really attracted to this guy sexually but I dont want to destroy our friendship which I treasure much more than he...he thinks nothing will change and no one will get hurt but I am so scared and so confused that I dont know what to do. I am single at the moment and so is he. He has been looking for another job for sometime now and it looks like he may be leaving...do I sleep with him or not?
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anonymous user
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 1:23pm
Don't do it. You'll regret it. Don't have sex with him on the basis of trying to hold on to him or whatever your reasoning may be.

He's leaving. If your friendship is strong enough it will last. If not, realize you have to move on and do.

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Registered: 04-07-2004
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 10:26pm
I think that it would be better if he no longer worked with you to have a relationship with him then. I don't think a relationship with a coworker would be good especially if he doesn't think it would matter; he might talk b/c it wouldn't be important enough to him not to. Besides that, if it doesn't work out(like if he's crappy in bed) then you still have to see him everyday.

Anyway, just one person's opinion.

Good luck regardless!