Religious deifferences
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Religious deifferences
| Tue, 02-06-2007 - 4:12pm |
I have been dating a wonderful man for the past 3 1/2 months. He had told me earlier on, that his family is christian science and believes that dating a divorced woman is committing adultery. If they would find out, they would no longer speak with him. He has not been part of that religion for 20 yrs and disagrees with their beliefs but loves his family. He has only a stepson, no children of his own. He was in a past relationship for 18 yrs. with a divorced woman and his family did not speak to him. He has recently been back in their lives. We had told each other that we were both falling in love and did not know what to do.We had been talking about this issue for some time and last week he told me that could not give up his family. I told him that his decision was obviously made and left. The relashionship was otherwise perfect and miss him more each day. I left him a message stating how I felt and have not heard back. Any suggestions.
Thanks
Edited 2/6/2007 5:41 pm ET by mash511
Thanks
Edited 2/6/2007 5:41 pm ET by mash511

Well it sounds like you said, oh you've already made up your mind, meaning that you thought he was choosing his family over you...
That sounds like you're closing the door for him as well as you.
He made his choice - his family. I am very sorry for you, but unfortunately is the right choice - at least for him. He lived without his family once because of his relationship choice and realized he didn't want to do it again - this time you got caught in the crossfire. IMO, he should have known all this before getting involved with you and to me that was pretty thoughtless on his part. It's not like his family had changed since he did this before and yet he did this again, hurting YOU in the process.
Move on from him. He has made his choice. There is likely not anything you could do to change his mind. Even if you did, it would likely be temporary and he'd go back to them again hurting you even more. And honestly, would you want him to choose his family over you - even tho you care about him and even tho you feel their religious conviction is unreasonable? It's not like he has an evil family that abuses him or anything. This is their religious beliefs and even if you and he don't believe the same thing, it's his family and he chose to respect their choice even if he doesn't subscribe to it.