Reviving a lost friendship with an ex...

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Registered: 05-31-2004
Reviving a lost friendship with an ex...
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Mon, 11-29-2004 - 6:37am

I recently bumped into one of my ex at a club and have been keeping in touch ever since!

It has been 5years since we last met and kept in touch. And bumping into him could have been the best thing that has happened so far. We met when I was in my teens and in his early 20's... his mom and my mom were good friends but they too, have lost touch. We went out for a month (which he reminded me) and remained as platonic friends. Went our own separate ways and then lost touch due to workload and other unforeseen circumstances.

After bumping into each other recently, we have been keeping in touch and hanging out as well! We had so much to tell each other on what both of us has missed out for the past 4yrs. I feel so comfortable and happy whenever we hung out. He complimented me each time we met saying things like "I've grown up so much" or "You are looking good now" or "You've grown taller" or stuff like that. But all were compliments that has made me quite shy about it.

I am single currently and he, is having a 'time out' with his girlfriend (whom he's been with for the past 5yrs). We enjoy each other's company and most of the time, he wanting to know what has been happening to me and all the latest updates that I can fill him up on. Apart from that, we just plainly enjoy cracking up jokes or having a good hangout.

He's a really nice guy who is very caring. And he makes me feel really special. While hanging out, he'll carry me or give me a piggy back ride if I'm too tired to walk. Or checking every now and then to see if I am okay. I feel that he treats me as 'one of the boys' but at the same time, maybe as 'a sister' or I am really not too sure...

But last nite, something strange happened. He actually brought up about how we used to date. Like asking me questions such as 'don't you remember how it feels like when we kissed the last time?' or 'do you remember how long did we date last time' or stuff like that. All the while, I didn't even want to bring up about our past or to even think about it. But after last nite, he really got me thinking...

I am not sure how I feel about him. A little confused at times as well. I mean, I do like him as a friend and someone whom I can confide in and hang out with. But, when the topic about how we used to date, it just got me a little confused.

Why did he bring up about how we used to date? And why all of a sudden he's so much more concerned about me than he used to be? Are we just reminiscing the past or what???

Can someone please advice me on this???? I still do not know how I feel about him now. Except that I am extremely happy whenever we hang out.

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Registered: 11-06-2004
Mon, 11-29-2004 - 12:21pm
RED LIGHT!!!!!!!! You should be careful just because of the fact that he said 'time out' from his girlfriend. That advice is only if you think you're falling for him, if not then enjoy your new friend. However, it does seem like he's brought out some curiousity in you but I think you shouldn't go there until you know all details about his 'time out'. Don't let him use you... Just some friendly advice. :)