Roll in the Hay or Another Date
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| Thu, 03-29-2007 - 9:19pm |
I went out with this guy on a date. (The same guy I had talked about before) We had an amazing time and then ended up sleeping together. Before I left, I just told him that I was not one of those girls that like got obsessive if the guy did not call after becoming intimate and that if he wasn't interested I understood. He said he appreciated the fact that I made it comfortable for him but that wouldn't be necessary because he was very much interested in really wanted to see me again. That was yesterday. Previous to this last date I had invited him to an event this saturday (casual) and he said he was very much interested and I said I would get back with him on more information. I forgot to ask him about it when we were together, because again yesterday, as my mind was on other things :) About 3-4 hours later I did remember so I called and left a message (unfortunately it was fast because I was getting on the freeway lol so I hope he understood it). I was curious to know if you thought he was still interested, because I feel that since I already called, I shouldn't call again?
QUESTION: Do you think he's still interested or do I just have to chalk it up to a good roll in the hay? :)

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I always make the assumption that each time I go out with a guy, that will be the last time I see him, especially on the first few dates. That way, I am not disappointed when he doesn't call and pleasantly surprised when he does. Just go about your life date other guys and if he comes back around then take it from there.
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Hi Snafu! I have been doing pretty well, life has been crazy and I haven't had much time to lurk here or post. I agree with your assessment that my approach can be hard to pull off. However, I found that dating a couple of different guys at a time makes it easier. That way, I am not putting all of my eggs in one basket so to speak. This is much easier if you are doing OLD as well, which I have done on and off at times. I have to practice very hard not having expectations until after I have been seeing someone fairly consistently for a couple of months. Even then, I have to keep my expectations in check because, well... to be perfectly honest, I am neurotic!
How have you been?
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YG
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I can understand wanting a BF for emotional support but not wanting to get involved with anyone right now because you are getting over a traumatic event. There are definitley men who would be attrated to the drama of your story, but once the drama is gone then he would be too. I have known friends who have dated men like this.. However, hang in there and keep posting and let us know how you are.
Hugs,
YG
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