Roomate in love!!!! What to do?? do tell
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Roomate in love!!!! What to do?? do tell
| Tue, 11-01-2005 - 12:03pm |
Hi everyone! I need all the help anyone could need, haha. The situation is this, i live in a house with 6 other roomates, one I´m specially connected with. The thing is, this weekend as many others we went out to his sister´s we stayed there and we went out to a bar, we´ve been drinking all day and by night we were a little more happy than usual. The thing is, that we began dancing and then he kissed me and told me he loved me!!!!!!
I was stunned! But, also kissed back. We had such a wonderful time and the next morning, we were like if nothing would have ever hapened!! I remembered everything but he didnt so, because we were in company i didnt brought it up, until we were alone again comming back home. I asked him if he didnt remember anything? And he said that little bits and that it was confusing, the thing is I remembered him and kiss him, and so we made out again and told him that i wouldnt do this again, that if he didnt remember I would never say a thing.
What happened on monday night is that he did remember!!! And we realized that we had a lot of fun and that we care about each other, but, he said, that we should wait and see what happens.
What does that mean? That nothing´s going to happen? That later will happen? That we´ll be like that forever? Should I speak to him or could he feel pressured? AHhhhhhhhh I think i´ll talk to him because I cant be in the limboo, but, is it too much? Is he only afraid or only not interested????
I was stunned! But, also kissed back. We had such a wonderful time and the next morning, we were like if nothing would have ever hapened!! I remembered everything but he didnt so, because we were in company i didnt brought it up, until we were alone again comming back home. I asked him if he didnt remember anything? And he said that little bits and that it was confusing, the thing is I remembered him and kiss him, and so we made out again and told him that i wouldnt do this again, that if he didnt remember I would never say a thing.
What happened on monday night is that he did remember!!! And we realized that we had a lot of fun and that we care about each other, but, he said, that we should wait and see what happens.
What does that mean? That nothing´s going to happen? That later will happen? That we´ll be like that forever? Should I speak to him or could he feel pressured? AHhhhhhhhh I think i´ll talk to him because I cant be in the limboo, but, is it too much? Is he only afraid or only not interested????

I've decided to post a reply because I'm in a very similar situation to yours.
I live with 4 other people and have been especially close to one of them during the last 6 months. He moved in 6 months ago and since then we've been flirting with eachother. Sometimes more, sometimes less, but always - yes. For a while he had a girlfriend, but even then the flirting was on. We kissed a couple of times in similar situations - he was drunk. In the morning he would apologise but always let me know how he doesn't regret kissing me. My reaction was always to say 'it's cool... don't worry about it... we had fun and that was it'.
And then last week we ended up having s*x with eachother. I always knew it would happen. The tension was becoming absolutely incredible. I even rejected him a couple of times but in the end caved in. Now we are behaving like a couple. He'll move out in a month and I don't know what will happen. But none of our other roommates know. We are not a boyfriend and a girlfriend. I don't know what we are.
I guess we're taking it slowly and will see where it goes. May go nowhere, but may also turn into a relationship. Who knows.
So don't stress out. It's a bit more complex when you get involved with a roommate and you should be extra careful as it is easier to get hurt.
I'm sure he's got a good bit of fear. the two of you are roommmates, it's a very touchy situation (forgive pun). I seriously doubt he forgot what happened!
That pun was the best! hahaha.
Thank you for posting your thoughts! We´ve already had the ackward talk, but everything is evolving just right. I don´t know, in the moment I felt so anxious and confused, but now I´m in an optimistic mood and only trying to get everything to how it was like before. Maybe it will never be the same, but, could be better or at least we could remain friends.
:)
He was interested when you were drunk and he was horny, but in the light of day he was "forgetful".
Thank you Alison:)
Good, it's best to just forget it happened.