Rooming situation

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2005
Rooming situation
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Tue, 10-25-2005 - 10:26am

Hi everyone,

I’m new to this board. I really need some input from others so I can make the right decision.

I'm in my late 20s. My boyfriend and I've been going out for about five months now. My boyfriend’s parents are coming to visit from another state to meet me for the first time. Here’s one question for you. Rooming situation. I have to stay with him and his parents for the weekend at his apartment. Since there are only two rooms he suggested that his parents take one room and we take the other. But my concern is, is it okay for us to be sharing the room when I’m meeting them for the first time? Should I ask him to use the couch in the living room? I already discussed this with my bf and he said it’s fine that we do use the same room. He said they wouldn’t mind or care. But manner-wise, is it okay? What do you all think? Please help. I’m very nervous and don’t want to make any mistake or anything. I want them to really like me since I really like my bf....

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-31-2005
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 9:35pm

Hi and welcome to the board!


I hope you get the answers you need and also stay for awhile and get to know the wonderful people here...


As for your question, since it is really bothering you and since you do not feel right about sleeping in the same bed, I would listen to your inner guide and sleep on the couch. I know we're all adults but there is time for sleeping in the same bed. I have a feeling if you slept in the same bed you wouldn't feel comfortable during their stay, no matter what your bf says--is that true? Only if you can live with the choice, should you decide to sleep in the same bed together...


Hope this helps.


iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2005
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 4:02pm
Regardless of how he says his parents will feel about it, it will make an impression. I'd do what feels right and for you, that's sleeping on the couch. It's not like you're trying to fool them, you're just being polite in keeping an awkward situation out of the weekend.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2005
Thu, 10-27-2005 - 1:07am

I would definitely not choose to sleep with my boyfriend, when parents are visiting, whether mine or his.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 10-27-2005 - 1:32pm

ask your boyfriend if he's discussed it with his parents or is he just assuming it's ok?


you want this to be addressed and feel comfy about it or as comfy as possible before the visit. meeting them has enough stress, you don't want to have to worry about this touchy aspect

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2005
Thu, 10-27-2005 - 2:04pm
Thank you so much for all of your great inputs.