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ruined opportunity?
| Mon, 03-08-2004 - 4:43am |
I went to lunch with my guy friend this past Sunday. This is the guy I've been posting about. He called Friday night and said he was going to be in my neighborhood for a project and wanted to know if I would be available for lunch. Our lunch went okay in the beginning until he tried to steer the conversation about relationships in general, twice. The conversation was about commitment...how does one know he/she is the one. I got nervous and skirted the subject both times he brought it up. This was at a conversational level I had wanted and I avoided it. I don't know why I did that. Maybe I wasn't ready to talk about the subject? So, when I notice what I did and became nervous during the rest of our lunch and I sensed he noticed my nervousness.
Then, he discovers that I have a good family friend he has had a falling out with. It turns out that my family friend and his children had hurt and betrayed him in the past. They used to be business partners and somehow they had cheated him out of some business deals.
Then our conversation just kind of dragged. I felt that I may have bored him and scared him. Normally at the end of our dates, he would say 'I'll catch you later' but this time he just said 'bye'.
Now I feel like I may have ruined the opportunity for something more in our relationship. So, I think I am now guilty too by my association with my family friend. Will he not want to hang out and contact me anymore?

Well all I can say is if he doesn't call you or date you for your associated with this family friend then that should show you of how shallow he is since this is not your friend per say but a family friend if he can't look over that then hes not worth it and I don't understand why he would ask you what do you think it means when you found the one what the heck was that about was he trying to see if you felt that he was "The One" for you for no offense but that would have gotten me nervous too and how did he respond to his own question did he tell you of how he felt when he meets "The One" for him I mean what the heck how is anyone suppose to answer that question?
I feel that if this guy really wants to be with you then he will respond back to you I guess for now you'll have to wait and see :)