Rules that I learned from ivillag
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| Sun, 05-07-2006 - 9:45pm |
Dear girls and boys, I have visited this board since Feb and have learned a lot of dating rules, which not necessary are "rules" but I just refer them as "rules". I wonder if any of you can tell me if what I am learning here is correct or not. Your reply is highly appreciated :-)
1. As long as you and the guy you are dating do not have an exclusive talk, you can date other people at the same time.
2. An gf/bf term applies mainly to an exclusive relationship.
3. While dating a few people at the same time before committing exclusive relationship with any of them, sometimes sex will happen. Although I don't think it is safe and good to have sex with a few people at the same time, it is not an action that violates the dating rule. It means if you want to only have sex with one person, you need to bring up the exclusive talk.
Thanks a lot!

I think the most important things to remember are that you should never *assume* anything, and that you and the person you're dating can agree to do whatever you want, so long as you agree to it.
I have a couple comments on what you posted.
1. This is true, but IMO, if you know the other person THINKS you are exclusive for some reason, you have an obligation to let them know that's not the case.
2. Yes...I would not consider anyone I was not exclusive with to be my "boyfriend"...he's someone I'm dating or seeing.
3. Yes, this is correct...and it goes back to what I said above: never assume. While I am personally not comfortable being in a situation where I'm not sexually monogamous, not everyone feels the same way. If it's important to you, ASK.
Sheri