sad goodbyes

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Registered: 10-29-2005
sad goodbyes
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Sat, 11-12-2005 - 4:49pm

Ok all, I need your help! A few weeks ago me and my best friends from years ago, meet up. We have been hanging out almost everyday. He kisses me, and holds me tight. He tells me that is is afraid of getting hurt again, so he will admitt he loves me, but says he is not in love with me. NOt yet at least. Anyway, he is moving tomarrow. The last time I seen him was at his "FAMILY ONLY" birthday party which was on 11/6. I have been calling him, but he has not been answering,which is unlike him to do. I asked him if I could come to his house and see him before he leaves tomarrow, his reply was "we'll see". i don't get it, just last week we were calling and text messaging each other everyday, but the last 3 days he seems preoccupied and uninterested in talking to me. I am madly in love with him, and I don't know what to do!

I wasn't his official girlfriend, i was just a special friend, so I know we didn't break up, is he just trying to save himself from heart ache? What should I do? Should I let him leave with out saying goodbye?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cj17821
Mon, 11-14-2005 - 9:28am

cj18721...

"Should you leave without saying 'goodbye?'

The answer is an absolute, positive YES!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 09-01-2005
In reply to: cj17821
Mon, 11-14-2005 - 2:30pm
Above all, the most important criteria for being "madly in love" with someone is that they should also want you. If he's not acting this way, then he's not feeling it. He's not scared of hearthache or pain. If anything, he's scared that he took it too far with someone he doesn't have strong feelings for and now he's backing out the easiest way he can, by distancing himself. It's time to stop viewing him as a potential boyfriend and start viewing it as a lesson learned. Men aren't generally scared of being hurt when they want someone to be with them. You're not scary, he's not afraid. It just isn't right.