Sad Halloween

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-11-2004
Sad Halloween
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Sun, 10-31-2004 - 12:55am
As I writing this,my heart for him has died.....

The Guy I've been likin for months, three weeks ago we kissed, things seemed to do okay

he said he wanted to hang out in halloween,

and he would call me later tonight like 11pm,

I bought the nice costume and stuff,and turned down other parties

BUT He didn't call!! I called to see what's he up to, the cell phone was off

and I left an message to ask a call back.

I felt stupid , pissed and hurted! thanks to him my halloween is ruining

I don't think I would ever want to talk to him again...

But I'll still see him at school, we are still working in the same study group,

although we are not official gf and bf,should I reveal my anger to him??

I really hated the way he's been treating me...

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-30-2004
In reply to: airie2004
Sun, 10-31-2004 - 1:18am
hold on.. how does he treat you other than today?

you know how even technology fails or people run into unexpected situations, and even if it's not some big disasters that happened to him, perhaps you should first rethink how's he like normally and try to calmly ask him what happen first.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2003
In reply to: airie2004
Sun, 10-31-2004 - 8:31am
Hon, since you're not B/G he has no obligation to call you. However, as a friend he should have had the cortesy to call you to say he wouldn't be hanging out on Halloween. He didn't. Next time I see him, I'd mention that he didn't call to hang out and that it was disrespectful. Could it be that because you both kissed he told you he'd call? Maybe this guy was just looking to kiss you and nothing more. If approaches you again tell him to go kiss his GF.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2004
In reply to: airie2004
Sun, 10-31-2004 - 8:40am
Bf or gf, or none, kissing or no kissing, that is irrelevant.

Friends don't stand friends up!!!!

That is rude and unacceptable. I think you should ask him what happened and if there was an emergency or a serious reason why he after he promised left you waiting with costume in hand, then, don't judge him by this action alone.

If he had no reason to stand you up, he is flaky and that is no good. By the way, why cancel all other plans, maybe it would be good to keep a back up plan for the future, just in case.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-11-2004
In reply to: airie2004
Sun, 10-31-2004 - 9:52am
hey..thanks guys

I did have a back up plan,just couldn't reach them in the last minute

plus he ruinned my mood anyway.

we had more than just kisses..now i felt like he's just using me! but he didn't

Anyway,after almost 3 hrs after I called him, he sent me an message at 2am to ask where am I

i didn't even bother to reply,i was really too disapponted to care anymore

I wasted my time and money on those nonrefoundable halloween stuff.

So i want to let him know i was really mad,but I won't see him utill Wed at school

,should I send him the msg or call him to find out what happened though? or just wait see if he calls me??

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-30-2004
In reply to: airie2004
Sun, 10-31-2004 - 10:33am
Since now it's already the morning, either message back or call back does not make a difference cos you cannot change the plans for last night already. It sounds to be like either he wasn't clear on the plans made with you, and was hanging out with his friends and thought you would call, or was just drunk to remember that he had to until suddenly at 2am. So if you want him to give you a more immediate and longer response, you can probably just call him and calmly ask him what happened, accept it if he could immediately give you an appropriate reason, if he forgot or something like that, then tell him you find it inappropriate and depends what you feel like, still get over it or be mad at him. Or, you can text message him back and ask him what happened and tell him to call you (don't boost his ego by starting out to say that you were upset and waited him all that time!)
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-11-2004
In reply to: airie2004
Mon, 11-01-2004 - 1:45pm
Alright..heres a update

he called last night right before i was off to parade

he asked "how was my night and why I didn't reply his msg?"

he gave an pretty lame explination

I took everybody's advice,

i didn't care if hes gonna like me anymore, I told him I am pissed about his behavior,

so he said he feel sad i am mad at him, said he wanted to meet up with me if i wanted to

i was like,i don't trust your word anymore unless you take some action

so he found me in the ten blocks long pararde

and my punishment for him was to make him put on my angle wings

he hated it,but he still put it on for me ^++^

thanks for you guys,so i could deal this properly