Saying I love you a lot and too soon?
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Saying I love you a lot and too soon?
| Sat, 02-11-2006 - 1:12pm |
I am dating a guy who started saying I love you well before we were intimate an early on, say week 2 of casual dating. He has liked me since 2001 but I was not free to date. He asks me constantly if I miss him and love him. He also says he loves me every two minutes during lovemaking..it's really getting to me..sigh..what does this mean? He is 36.

Does he live in Brooklyn because he sounds like someone I know!
I think you know what it means. He's gotten attached a bit too soon, especially if there's no basis for it. He's known you since then but I assume you guys never shared feelings for each other on that deeper level?
If you think there is no basis for it, then I would say he is probably clingy. Keep your eyes on other actions of his to determine if this is the case. And since you are uncomfortable with it, I would talk to him about it. You should not have to swallow anything you're not ok with.
No, he does not reside in NY..LOL.
Why would someone be clingy? It is such a turn off. I like a man who is a little more manly and less needy seeming? It is not flattering at all...I feel like I have to repeat his feelings back. I also feel like I am on control and hate it..like he needs me to repeat the same to validate I care?
I cannot talk about it yet because I already had to address my concern he drinks a lot and also a few sex issues. I do not want to come down on something else..right now. It's all so new. Any other ideas instead of direct confrontation?
Don't get me wrong, I adore him. He is very nice and kind and fun and can carry on a conversation. He has an excellent work ethic, is family oriented and very easy going...I do not want to throw in the towel but...I am sort of overwhelmed with his verbal overtures...
Well initially I did say thank you a lot..now I have said I love u back...I do love him in some manner..
Thankfully he has his own life going out with friends and never stopping me from my own space..it's all ok in that regard...I dunno....sigh..