scared to fall in love
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| Sat, 08-07-2004 - 7:17pm |
Then, 2 months ago, I met someone while I was on vacation. We spent the whole 2 weeks together and since then, we have spent hours talking every day, either on the phone or on the computer. He's more than I ever could have imagined and from what I can tell he feels the same way about me. He's coming to visit me very soon and I am terrified this isn't going to last either just because of the past experiences I've had. Seeing as we don't even live in the same city, he could easily cheat on me and I wouldn't even know.
I'm a successful, smart woman who is confident in herself, I just have a very hard time trusting men after everything that has happened. It seems that no one stays together anymore and I'm at the point in my life where I want to settle down with the right person. But what if I fall in love and get crushed again? I know this sounds cheesy but I really don't know how to allow myself to believe in love again.

HOWEVER, I do have some friends who have successfully built r'ships that started out long-distance, so it can be done. And I'm sure you know not every man is untrustworthy. Pay attention to your gut instincts, and observe his behavior over time as best you can. If you see things that don't make sense, ask about them and see what he says. That's all you can do!
R'ships involve risk...there's no getting around that.
Sheri