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a second chance?
| Thu, 12-08-2005 - 7:09am |
I recently met this great guy but I'm afraid that things may not work out because a really great date sort of turned "bad." We met at a conference previously and he lives at least an hour away. We've spoke on the phone a lot, sort of became friends, agreed that we seem to be a match and decided to go out. He came out to my city last Saturday and we spent the whole day together-- went to a museum, saw a movie, made dinner. He stayed over, he slept with me but we didn't have sex-- then, the next morning neither of us were feeling great-- felt like we were getting food poisoning or something. We ended up just watching TV for the rest of the day and he took a long nap saying he felt awful. Eventually, we just stopped having fun, didn't talk much but tried to and he decided in the late afternoon to head home. The following day he emailed me and said he had a good time but felt things got weird the next day, not sure if it was just because he felt ill but was wondering if the chemistry fizzled out too. I said I thought it would have been better if we felt better and went out and did things instead of hanging around my apartment all morning and afternoon. He agreed, and said we should give it another shot because he really likes me and is attracted to me and "doesn't want to let this go yet" however he doesn't want to jump into this seriously until he sees how the next date goes.
I haven't heard from him in several days now. I emailed him to see how he was feeling but never heard back. I thought we had agreed to try this out and stay in touch. Did he just give up on this and lose interest? I'd at least like some closure here. I thought we had a good connection and I know that sometimes you really need a second try to know if something truly failed. We've got lots of things in common and he sounded honest about trying to see if this can work and considering the "bad second day" a fluke.
I haven't heard from him in several days now. I emailed him to see how he was feeling but never heard back. I thought we had agreed to try this out and stay in touch. Did he just give up on this and lose interest? I'd at least like some closure here. I thought we had a good connection and I know that sometimes you really need a second try to know if something truly failed. We've got lots of things in common and he sounded honest about trying to see if this can work and considering the "bad second day" a fluke.

I think the two of you overdosed on each other. The food poisoning certainly didn't help. I know you might have liked him but having a date last 24 hours or more is too much. I agree with you, on a first date you shouldn't be hanging around an apartment.
I think he wants to move on.
Well, he's putting a lot of pressure on this second date. You both made your feelings known.