Second date

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Registered: 09-04-2013
Second date
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Wed, 09-04-2013 - 10:42pm

I've just started seeing this guy who was in my class at college.

On our second date I gave him a hand job, was this too soon?

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Thu, 09-05-2013 - 12:34am

No there is no such thing as too soon or too late as each relationship is very different.  However, you need to know your endgame.  

Goldfish

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Registered: 09-04-2013
Thu, 09-05-2013 - 5:53am
What do you mean by end game?
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Thu, 09-05-2013 - 8:50am

Nobody has a crystal ball to know how this relationship will turn out. You have to act wisely for the best results. To make sure it doesn't turn into a booty call type of relationship, keep your next 2 or 3 dates outside of your homes. Make sure you do things in public like eating at a restaurant, taking a hike, going to the mall or a movie or bowling. If he asks you to his place, tell him you'd rather go out and do something. He needs to show you signs that he's wanting to get to know you and not just use you for your body. When you value yourself, you'll attract guys who know you won't put up with their BS and they'll treat you as you should be treated. They will respect you and know that they have to be worthy of you to stay in your life. Always remember you're the one in the driver's seat. You decide how things are going to go and if the other person isn't on the same page, drop them off at the corner. Good luck!

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Registered: 09-04-2013
Thu, 09-05-2013 - 10:25am

thank you for your advice Safire :)

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Registered: 09-11-2013
Tue, 09-17-2013 - 9:18pm
Hey young, kinda late on this but in my opinion, there is no set timeframe - depends on the chemistry and relationship. Hope things worked out for you :)