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| Thu, 10-07-2004 - 10:16am |
I met this guy in an online dating service. He just moved back here to town after 10 yrs and his family is well known in town. My mother used to work with him and likes him a lot so don't other people I have talked to. We have a lot in common and have the same views on a lot of different issues. We chat all the time on the comp sometimes for hours. We have been "dating" for about a month now but have only been together twice. Both times only for an hour or so. Well here is part of the problem he works 10pm till 7am and sleeps during the day till about 3-4pm. After that we chat online until he has to get ready for work. I want to know how I can talk to him and let him know that I am not happy with the way the relationship is going? He has told me he is not looking for anyone else and that this might be "it" for him. Then why don't we see more of each other. Also another problem is 2 times we tried to get together something always came up and he had to cancel. Either work or his father. I care for him deeply I just want to know how to convey to him that we need to see more of each other. Even sometimes when he has a day off we will chat online but never see each other. We only live 3min away from each other. Please help me!

I know it's rough working different schedules, my husband and I did when we first started dating. I worked in the evenings and I tried my hardest to find time and he was understanding. He knew I needed my rest, but also sometimes I just needed time for my friends or time alone.
Also I don't want to be negative, but are you sure there is no other lady in his life? That would explain why he wouldn't invite you over for a little bit before he goes to work. I find it strange that you live so near each other, but he still isn't finding time for you two to meet in person.
If it's not another woman, perhaps his problem is that he does not feel comfortable yet in your presence and it is easier for him to express himself over the internet. This is not a healthy beginning for a relationship so if this is the case, try to address it with him and I am sure the more time you spend together in person, the more he will want to see you and be more comfortable.