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|Wed, 11-13-2013 - 12:15pm|
I posted about a month ago that I have been seeing two women at the same time, after a breakup of a 3-year relationship in April....
The one that I have been seeing for a little over 2 months so far (Lady A) I met under the auspice of a “dating, but nothing serious” type of relationship, and from the beginning of our communications, it seems sex was a prime motivator for both of us. Which was fine! I did not intend nor expect a full relationship to develop, and so I continued on the dating scene and seeing other people. I finally met someone else in the middle of October (Lady B) who I have developed a much stronger interest, and sense a stronger chemistry and potential future than the first one. I have continued to see her in between times I’ve gotten together with Lady A. I will admit, it’s starting to get difficult, and I hate having to lie to both about what I am doing when I’m with the other.
I’m begninng to see more and more that Lady A is getting more attached, and more “clingy”, and signs that she is getting more serious. It’s no longer the “casual” thing that both of our online ads described what we were looking for. I cannot continue to lie to EITHER of these women. I need to “end” it with one of them, and Lady A is the logical one to end with. By “end”, I mean to indicate that I don’t want to move forward in something serious, no longer be sexually intimate, but still remain in contact of some sort. If things change, leave it open to get together again if mutually agreed upon. Not to sound like a jerk, but I just don’t want to slam the door on her. I GENUINELY care for and about her. I just don’t feel a future as I do with Lady B.
What is the best way to talk to Lady A and express my feelings and desire to cool off, but not lose her as a dear friend, in the least heartbreaking means possible? I don’t want to say I’m seeing someone else, as I don’t think that would go well, but want to be honest as possible.