serious help needed please...

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-06-2004
serious help needed please...
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Fri, 11-19-2004 - 8:21pm
My boyfriend and i have been going out for 1yr and like 2 months...we fight and say its over but it never really is...i love him...well i mean if you asked me that a few months ago, i wouldn't have a doubt in my mind, but i'm not so sure anymore...i feel like i'm being taken for granted and that he doesn't know how lucky he really is... i don't want to leave him, we live together and when there are good times they are the best ever...its just, we are oil and water but at the same time we mix... i don't know what to do because i love him i'm sure, or i wouldn't put up wiht this crap and well i know he loves me, thats just how he is, 21 but still a little kid...i just don't know anymore...can anyone help please thanks
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-10-2003
Sat, 11-20-2004 - 12:32pm
What's your payoff here? Why do you stay in this relationship? Do you enjoy the few happy times? BUT settle for the unhappy and crappy fights without doing anything? If you're feeling like you're taken for granted then you probably are. If you break up but don't really then this relationship is a game. If you're NOT happy and fulfilled then say so and mean it. You teach others to treat you well, but apparently you've allowed many things to happen that this guy knows he can walk all over you and then say "I didn't mean it". Does the payoff look good now?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-20-2004
Sat, 11-20-2004 - 10:46pm
Im going through a very similar situation myself! I wish I could help! My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and it seems as if we just met! I feel so distant from him its not funny! If you do get some good advise, please pass it on, Im very curious for an answer myself!