Seriously In Need Of Advice

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Registered: 08-11-2004
Seriously In Need Of Advice
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Wed, 08-11-2004 - 6:15am
My best friend is a wonderful man. He's sweet, and funny, and smart, and kind, and he loves my daughter. I think I am falling in love with him. The problem is he that he's gay. What should I do?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-11-2004 - 9:00am
duchess caldonia...

Are you sure he's gay....or....bi-sexual?

Switch-hitters are common these days...and a man can love both sexes. (Pianoguy doesn't know if the same holds true for women)?

What's important is whether you accept this side of his personality...and whether you wish to regard this man as "just a good friend" or something more?

An honest chat with him about his preferences probably would be a good idea...AND SOON!

Best wishes and warm thoughts from...

Pianoguy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-11-2004 - 10:47am
You are leading a very rich fantasy life which you need to end straightaway. If this friend of yours is truly your friend, he would get out of your way. Right now, he's holding you back from meeting someone who is straight and interested in being in a relationship with you. He can no more become straight for you, than you can become lesbian for a woman friend of yours that has a huge crush on you. I went to the sex museum in Manhattan with a gay cousin of mine and his reaction to the woman's body and hetero sex was...squeemish. There is no proven way to redirect your sexual self. Religious leaders, psychiatrists, doctors, the law have tried over the centuries. Stop deluding yourself and get away from this guy.