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Sex on First Date
| Thu, 05-06-2004 - 8:29am |
I met a guy for drinks last Friday. Everything was going GREAT! I mean, the conversation flowed, we have a ton in common, and he is very sexy. He kept telling me how nice I am, how mature (he's 45, I'm 33), how sexy & hot I am, etc. Anyway, at the end of the date (it went on for 3 hours), he took me to my car and before I got out of his car, we started making out pretty heavily. Next thing I know, he's asking me to go back to his place. So, I do. We ended up having some great sex that night and I spent the night there.
We've talked since then. He'll tell me that he's thinking of me and I believe every time we've talked, he's told me how great he thinks Friday night was. He said the entire night was great, not just the sex part. I asked him what he thinks of me because I feel pretty guilty for doing that on a first date. He said that at our ages, it's silly to get upset about it. We're adults, blah blah blah.
Here's the problem - he hasn't asked me out again. Today is Thursday! What the heck is he waiting for? He told me how great Friday was, we've talked on the phone and online. I know he is busy because he works unGodly hours (goes to bed at 8:30 p.m., wakes at 4 a.m.).
Should I ask him when we are getting together again or leave it up to him?

But, we talked Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, and last night. Each time we have talked, he tells me how great he thought everything went. He thought I was cool, wants to see me again, yadda yadda yadda. I guess I just believe someone until proven wrong. He did make a comment yesterday that he's on a budget this week. I thought that was a hint that he may not be able to take me out. Because on Sunday, he had said he wanted to take me out this week, if he could.
I know a lot of people who have had sex on the first date and ended up in a relationship. As a matter of fact, my last relationship started off the same way. The only problem with sex on the first date is that things are no longer going to be taken slowly.
In fact, when we were on the date, he started asking me what I want - do I ever want to get married again, do I want a relationship, do I mind a man that works a lot, would I want to stay home or work if I ended up with him.
Well, I'll let you know what happens. Either we will go out on a second date or not. I just really like him and wish I hadn't give it up so soon.
I am 31 and divorced, so I know how tough the dating scene is. But hold out for respect, and respect yourself, and do not to give any part of yourself up so easily.
Good Luck!
I wouldn't worry yourself so much about having sex with this guy....
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