sex; not exclusive redux
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| Sun, 04-16-2006 - 10:20am |
(This is also posted on the New Rules of Dating board)
I apologize for giving a blow-by-blow account of my current dating situation :-P but find your insight therapeutic.
Recent interaction with the person I've been dating for about 6 weeks now has given me some new perspective on my 'needs', if you will. (This post might belong on the sex board but we're all adults, right?). Although we've been physical several times (3 to be exact), I've realized that I can't "let go" properly, or in the way I really, really need to, if I don't feel cared for *deeply* by the man I'm with. I can't see how this can come other than with time and patience -- or at least I think that's how it comes, but have never really had that deep feeling of security and comfort with a man! So although the physical part can be crazy-good and exciting in it's own right and for me, has a place in dating, there's definitely a piece of the puzzle that's sorely missing. Which makes me consider -- do I need to give up one for the other!?! To get the other, I have to be consistent with one man and he has to be consistent with me and we both have to be patient. Can this happen? *Does* this happen? Well, I suppose it does but do you think I'm on the right track, here?
