Sex problem....

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Registered: 03-10-2005
Sex problem....
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Sun, 08-07-2005 - 5:59pm

i just started dating a guy (like only been on three dates) we havent gotten really sexual with one another, but the thing is, i have HPV.

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Registered: 08-11-2004
In reply to: mellyissa
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 10:35pm
He certainly has a right to know that you have a contagious disease before you have sex with him. He needs to wear a condom to keep from getting this from you. You say nothing will happen to him like this isn't a big deal but it is. Something very well could happen to women he dates after you, they could end up getting cervical cancer, so this is a very serious matter.
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Registered: 03-10-2005
In reply to: mellyissa
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 11:18am
yes, i am aware he has a right to know before we have sex.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: mellyissa
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 11:45am

This is not intended as judgement at all, but do you intend to be exclusive with him before having sex? If so, I think that this would be a good discussion around that same time that you agree to be exclusive. However, I know a lot of relationships don't get to that exclusive talk before the sex starts - nothing wrong with it, but it's a reality. If you don't think you'll be exclusive yet, I think that you should tell him after a couple more dates. Make sure this is headed down that path and then let him know the situation, the risks to him and other women he might be with now and in the future.

Also, you have to be prepared for the possibility that he can't handle it. Although HPV is not as serious as some other STDs, it is still an STD and some people might just not want to deal with it. Good luck.

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Registered: 12-23-2003
In reply to: mellyissa
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 6:03pm

I'm a little unsure about what you mean when you said you and this young man have already been "very sexual."


But I think

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