sex stopped, dates cont. help? why?
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sex stopped, dates cont. help? why?
| Thu, 11-11-2004 - 11:23pm |
Please advise me; I had started a new relationship after finally gettting my self esteem back after a bad 4 yr relationship. I am 9 yrs older than he is but he said it didnt matter and was very attracted to me. He is a hard worker and apparently has a lot of money and responsibilities. After a few weeks, we became intimate and he said all the right things. This ocurred about 4 times. Then one saturday, he drove me home and kissed goodnight. He was very tired and felt his animals (he has many pets) "werent getting enough attention"... I figured it was over and was sad. But then he continued to call and we went out again to see some properties and eat. I said I would collect my things and leave. He kissed me goodnight. I left. He sent an email what a good time he had and looked forward to saturday. Why? I have invited him to thanksgiving but dont want to cont this parody if he isnt interested anymore. He isnt my boyfriend or lover anymore --what is he and why is he doing this? Does he not know how to get out of it? Do you think I repulsed him? I am so sad and confused. Should I say something? He said he hates confrontations....I hate being treated like an unappealing woman.....

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I ask as an idiot who did this with someone for 4 years who now doesnt even speak to me and prob only kept seeing me when there was no one else.....but I do appreciate the answers you all gave and hope one day, I can get close to/with someone w/o all this effort --just nice and easy....
Go get yourself the book "He's Just Not That Into You". There is a chapter in there about a man not having sex with you. It states, if he's not having sex with you, he's just not that into you. It's hard to realize someone you care for doesn't care for you back the way you want them to, but it's better that you see the signs now and do something about it before you end up getting too emotionally involved. It hurts a lot more after that happens. Good luck.
Well, yes- you do have to confront him if you want to be more then his friend. Because if that is what you want, but not what he want-->this is a blind alley.
It is easier to start over again when you know he is not avaliable for you. So confront him , and see what happens. Either he wants you, or either he dont. Thats the hard fact, but it will help you forward. Dont let this get to you
Best of luck
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