Sex vs. Sleeping Together
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| Mon, 11-01-2004 - 2:14am |
Three weeks ago, I began dating a wonderful man. We traveled out of town together to celebrate his best friend's birthday (introducing me to his best friend was a nice gesture in itself, I thought). We had planned to stay in separate places, but as the night progressed, he suggested that we stay together. He said he'd understand if I didn't want to change the plans on which we'd previously agreed, so I had an option to say no.
I explained that if a relationship for us was meant to be, that it should evolve the right way. He understood that although I am very attracted to him, I don't want sex too soon to complicate the progression of our relationship. He agreed, and I appreciated that in him. Nevertheless, I reminded him that two adults can share a hotel room or a bed and still exercise self-control.
We talked and cuddled for hours, and I fell asleep in his arms ... we awakened the next morning, kissed each other good morning briefly and talked for hours before we prepared for the road trip back home. There wasn't even any heavy kissing or petting. (Wow ... are those terms showing my age? lol)
My questions: is sleeping together and sharing an intimate evening in this way really any different from sex? And, if it's no different than having sex too early, would this type of intimacy complicate things the way that sex can? Maybe this sounds juvenile, but I haven't felt this way about a man in quite some time (I'm mid 40s) and I just want some input on this.
Thanks for reading ... I look forward to your replies.
Joy

He is controlling his desire for you, so please don't tease him too much ;-)
I would NOT share a bed with him again until you're ready to have sex. In the cases I noted above, we figured since we'd spent the night together already, what was the big deal? I wouldn't follow the same course again.
Sheri