Shall I leave him?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-07-2003
Shall I leave him?
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Fri, 12-03-2004 - 6:20pm

Hi I guess my thoughts are in a mess here, so please bear with me. I've dated this guy from UK for about 6 months, we've gone on regularly.

I guess I am not really satisfied with him, but I am also not sure because I am afraid that my reasons may be biased. So help me out whether I am right in my conclusions. He is certainly not a generous guy, since our 3rd or 4th dinner, we always split. Although I offered it, but he just readily accepted, which makes me a bit unhappy. I am not saying I want his money, but this shows that he is really not treasuring me. I guess I am vulnerable to some extent because I have always been under the mentality of not leaving an impression of taking-advantage-of-others and been very careful of not letting him pay for me. He appears to me to be just that type of guy who is really shrewd, even with someone who he claims that he loves.

During the time we were together, he always pestered me with his questions, and since I am not type of person who tend to impose my questions on others, so most of the time we were together were spent in solving his problems.

many many things, and I think you probably won't have time to listen to all of them.

Am I justified in concluding that he is not worth it based on these? Shall I just go with my feelings and no need to care whether I am fair or not?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-17-2004
In reply to: zyl41
Fri, 12-03-2004 - 6:33pm
Hon, if you are not happy, that is good enough reason alone to move on.
Is this relationship enhancing your life?
The answer to that question is the answer to whether or not you should keep him.