Shd I take the initiative - Am nervous
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| Mon, 01-09-2006 - 2:57am |
I had written sometime back about this guy I saw at a party....when we exchanged these glances all evening. But never got to talk.
I am restless, becoz I want to meet him again, know him, talk to him. Does he feel exactly the same? I am not too sure yet.
We are part of an association here. I could write to this 3rd person who, I am guessing, has a friend's friend who knows him directly. Can anyone advise what words I can use without sounding fishy or desperate to know him. I know this 3rd person's email address and he is an acquaintance of mine. And becoz we have a working relationship, I need to choose my words carefully and not encourage gossip.
Please advise....
I am really nervous. I dont even know if I can get myself to write this mail either. But as each day passes, I feel I must do something.
Thank you so much...

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I agree..
I don't want to "pursue" as such. It doesn't feel very right to go too far. And then in the past, that hasn't worked well either. This time, I will make sure I keep my emotions under control and just be a lot more casual and be able to pull it off. The least I do wanna do, is show some interest in him and show my availability. I would be walking that thin line between showing my interest and coming off as "pick me!". It's not that easy...
I feel that perhaps he is thinking I am taken already, since I was hanging with my guy friend, who could easily look like a BF. So I feel I must signal to him my interest & availability for sure. I am hoping he will perhaps take an initiative to "find out" too if I am really single. But the only people who know about something this personal, are the ones who run the association. Unless he talks to them, I don't believe he will know the real truth. And how would he know anyway, that he should talk to them. And something tells me, he is a bit shy and reserved so wont do that(even if he wants to). He wont put himself on the spot like this. He might perhaps be thinking he needs to 'wait n watch' and figure it out for himself.
A club meeting does not seem to be looming in sight. Today, I will be meeting with the association folks regd some work. They are the ones who run the thing, so I am sure they know about him very well. But I don't think I have the guts to mention him, without having that smile on my face. I can't act. I am such a mouse :-) :-(
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