She Told Me She Loves Me? Huh?!!
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She Told Me She Loves Me? Huh?!!
| Mon, 03-15-2004 - 4:57pm |
Statements from my girlfriend,
"I love you"
"I know you don't believe in intercourse before marriage, but you are THE one, so if you want to have intercourse, it's okay with me."
"You are everything I want. You are the one."
"I love you"
"I know you don't believe in intercourse before marriage, but you are THE one, so if you want to have intercourse, it's okay with me."
"You are everything I want. You are the one."
All of the above statements were made after she had a few drinks in her.
The following statements wer made sober.
"I'm falling for you."
"Your romantic letter made me cry."
Here's the deal. I'm always the one to initiate contact. I'm always the one to grab her hand. Unless, of course, we've been drinking, then she attacks me.
I don't like this pattern. Does she really love me? She tends to be an introvert, but to use the strong words she uses when she's drinking.. man.. it hits my heart. I'm confused right now and hurting a bit because I want to hear it from her sober.

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Oh girl does not know what she wants. She seems to have drinking issues as well. I would chill out on her for a while then have "the talk". You need to be clear on your place in this relationship. You do not have time to be bulls?????? around. You have feelings too!
Take care!
you know, you could always ask her about what she said when she's sober. Communication can be a wonderful thing! :)
My response when she told me she loved me was that I loved her too. I told her the next day when we were both sober that I meant what I said. She also stated she meant what she said.
It's different to say, "I meant what I said" than it is to say "I love you" again.
When she told me she loved me, she was buzzed but not drunk... but pretty darned buzzed.
Love... ugh... it's great and it sucks.. and I wouldn't trade it for a thing, but.. I need to have a long talk with her.
Arg!!! Peace everyone.
I think a talk is due (sober!). You can't tell whether she meant it or not really. It could be that she did mean those things but didn't feel confident enough sober to say them. Or it could be that she doesn't really mean them but just got carried away. You'll never know until you ask . . . good luck!
She doesn't have a drinking problem.. I probably drink more than her.. I just don't say those things though!
Over the past 24 hours, I feel as if she really is reaching out to me. I guess she really may love me. She called me at work today just to say hi and to hear my voice.
Last night she said she felt me when she was alone.. and she always wonders what I would do in a certain situation.
I guess she really may love me :))))
People will do things when they've been drinking they wouldn't do sober. Some women get very drunk easily. I would find out more about her drinking, whether it's a problem for her, and you. But don't take her behavior while drinking as what she is "really" thinking.
I know it has nothing to do with a drinking problem. We see each other 4-5 times a week.. we drink maybe 1-2 times and when we do it's always 1-2 drinks. There are the few occassions where we had quite a few more, 4-6 drinks, and that's when she really says the deep words of love. The few times we had more to drink, we weren't slurring our words or acting silly, we just we very loose.
I need to take those words at face value. The fact that I'm even posting the question is probably a good indicator that I'm not 100% positive of her love. That's okay too... I guess I get a bit confused when I hear it and don't feel it sometimes.
It's early in the relationship. I'm thankfull for what I have. It's just nice to get feedback from everyone.
Thanks.
You've only known her for 45 days, right? Long enough to get really involved but not long enough to know what's going to happen. Why not just try to relax and enjoy it? It doesn't sound like she's done anything to cause any great anxiety. Am I missing something? So, I'd say take it easy and don't try too hard to figure everything out. It's impossible, and it's a lot of work trying.
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