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should I ask?
| Tue, 03-13-2007 - 9:43pm |
My situation is that I really like a guy who I have known since freshman yr in college (we are now juniors) and I never really talked to him (or liked him much) until a month ago when we were hanging out at a friend's party. I decided there that wow, I like him A LOT. He offered to give me a ride home which was nice since he hadn't been drinking. Anyway, since then we have talked online almost everyday (I don't see him on campus that often because he commutes)and we met up and hung out at a small concert last week. I'm not sure if he might be shy or something but even though our conversations are always include some flirtatiousness, he does not hit on me or anything. In any other situation I would be patient and just see how things go slowly because I actaully want to date him not just get him to bed. However our junior/senior formal is coming up and tickets are being sold this week and next week. I would love to go with him, but I am not sure if it is okay for me to ask him, or if I do, if that might ruin my chances of having him become my boyfriend eventually which is a lot more important.
I was considering making a letter to put in his mailbox to ask him to the formal but now I am not sure if I should do that just yet or at all...
Any advice? Sorry that was a long story
I was considering making a letter to put in his mailbox to ask him to the formal but now I am not sure if I should do that just yet or at all...
Any advice? Sorry that was a long story

Please, no letters. Call him on the phone, tell him about your desire to go to this formal dance. Ask the man whether he would like to attend.
Bear in mind formal dances require finances for tux rentals and everything else and since this man is a college student he may not have the funds. But if he politely declines I doubt it would ruin your chances in the romance department, he may turna around and ask you out to dinner instead.
If he gets the letter, and he decides NOT to go, he may just not answer...and then you'll die of wanting to know!
If the letter drops on the ground, or gets buried under a pile of stuff in his dorm, and maybe he WOULD like to go, but he doesn't see the letter - you'll be dying of wanting to know!
CALL him. Just ask. It's either yes or no. If it's no, you're really no worse off than you are now. If you DON'T ask, it's a guaranteed no. Take a chance.