Should I ask him

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Should I ask him
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Tue, 10-05-2004 - 2:33am
I have been really good friends with this guy for about 5 months. In the first few weeks of our friendship, he asked me out for what I thought was suppoed to be a date. I turned him down because I had recently got out of a bad relationship and was not ready for another at the time. Plus, at that point, I did not know him that well. He said he only meant it out of friendship, so we agreed to be friends. Over the past couple of months, we have had a great time hanging out with each other. We laugh, flirt, play practical jokes, share personal thoughts, talk about whatever problems we have, and see each other often.

However, lately I have been wanting more than just friendship, but I have never mentioned it to him because I did not want to ruin the friendship we have. Therefore, I kept telling myself to ignore that feeling, and I would have kept on ignoring it until a friend of mine mentioned some things about his behavior. She said that he does not look at other women like he looks at me, so I asked her to explain her p.o.v. She says that around other women, he tends to act more aloft and indifferent. She also adds that he does a lot of things for me that goes out of the role of friendship. (Example: Whenever I have a problem, he makes me laugh, smile, and forget it, and then he goes out and fixes it.)

Yet, I would brush that off as him being a very good friend except that recently our friendly flirting is taking a more serious turn. He either adds a sincere compliment to me in our flirty conversation or stares at me when he thinks I am not looking. (Example: 1.) I will be talking and catch him staring at me for no real apparent reason. 2.) We were talking about rising gas prices, when he suddenly says, "You um look very, really pretty.") He plays with my hair, calls me his girl, and is happy over the fact that I have met and like his mom.

Am I wrong in wondering if he feels something more for me? I really want to believe that he does, but I am scared to do anything because I would rather have his friendship then nothing at all

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Registered: 09-29-2004
In reply to: jjs591
Tue, 10-05-2004 - 2:35pm
It sure does sound like he likes you...maybe when he makes a compliment....make one back. Is he shy? Maybe he is afraid of being shot down again LOL. Really, maybe it is your turn to take a bit of the initiative. However, keep in mind then IMO men DO like to pursue a bit.