should i ask him?

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Registered: 09-09-2003
should i ask him?
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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 3:24pm
I have been dating a new guy for almost 4 weeks and I have a wedding this saturday; does anyone have any advice on whether I should ask him to go with me or not? When I placed my RSVP I reserved for my brother who will not be attending; they have already pre-paid for the dinner so it would be food paid for with no one there to eat it.

All advice will be greatly appreciated!!!!

Thanks in advance,

Lisa
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 4:11pm
blueyedtrouble...

Assuming your b/f wants to go...and you aren't expecting him to catch the bridle garder, what's the big deal? The wedding recption is a way for the 2 of you to have fun together, socialize with others...and enjoy free food and champagne!

GEE....I'd love to join you and provide a few tunes. Unfortunately, I've got a piano gig that evening up here! OH WELL! Drink an extra glass of champagne for me, okay?

Pianoguy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 10:49pm
It would be VERY COURTEOUS of you to let the hosts know ASAP that your brother is not coming to the wedding...this will enable THEM to decide who else to invite to the wedding. It is NOT for you to invite a friend of yours. This is a very special occasion for the hosts...and expensive...why should they invited your friend of four weeks when instead they can accomodate someone else that they want to be there??
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Thu, 09-16-2004 - 8:46pm
The couple is from our church and I already have let them know that my brother (who was acting as a date that they told me I could bring) was not coming, they both told me that if I would like to bring someone else instead of my brother (whom they don't know). I would never dream of inviting someone different to the wedding with out letting the bride and groom know.

But thanks for your 'advice'
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Registered: 09-16-2004
Thu, 09-16-2004 - 10:23pm
i'd ask him. it's not really a big deal--well, i know agonizing over whether to ask him or not is a big deal, but he shouldn't think it's a big deal. and if he gets all weird over it, then maybe he isn't mature enough to be in a relationship. i'd go for it. good luck! :)