Should I ask him out?
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| Mon, 10-30-2006 - 8:57pm |
I'm undecided whether it would be a good or a bad idea for me to ask out the guy I had dinner with the weekend before last. This is the same guy who didn't reply to my e-mail and then said he had not got it. (See the reading/misreading thread.) We had a friendly lunch today (we talked about ourselves more than the project he was giving me advice on) but no sparks that I noticed. I cannot tell if he is still attracted/interested or if he is just hoping to go back to a "friendship" relationship.
This Friday there is a concert that I want to go to. Usually I would ask one of my female friends to go with me. But I was thinking I could ask this guy. I figure he asked me out last time, now it is my turn to ask him out. Am I wrong?
I really like this guy as a friend (someone of similar interests and values to talk with). I'm also somewhat attracted to him as a man. I don't want to be too pushy, but I also don't want him to think I'm not interested. When we went out the other Friday, he said he would let me pay the next time, and he said he would like to have a cup of tea another time, etc. So I sort of thought he wanted us to date some more. So is it my turn to ask him out?
I'm sorry if I sound stupid, but dating again after 50, and after 20+ years of marriage is a bit confusing. Back then, women did not ask men out.
Elsa

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Yeah, it was a learning experience.
I remain discouraged about the whole dating thing. I would like to find companionship, but not at the price of having put up with weird people. (My ex- was weird enough. I've paid my dues.)
Anyway, thanks for all your support and advice.
Elsa
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