Should I back off?

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Registered: 05-03-2004
Should I back off?
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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 3:52pm

I have been seeing someone for a few months now, and we have seen each other almost every weekend. Just lately, work has been very stressful for him, long hours, etc and we haven't talked much, he didn't have time to see me last weekend etc. It is very possible that he is just stressed/busy and I am reading too much in to one missed weekend, but it seems to me that he might be backing off a bit.

Assuming that I am to trust my instincts here, should I back off ie: not contact him at all, or just keep doing things the way I have been and accept his reactions as they come? And, if I am to back off, should I stop all contact completely and without explanation? I was considering saying to him something along the lines of "it seems to me that you need me to back off a little. I dont want you to think it is that I don't want to see you/talk to you etc, so I want you to know that I am not going to contact you; I am going to leave it up to you to contact me"...is that good/bad/can it backfire on me? Thoughts?

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Wed, 02-01-2006 - 3:13pm
Right now, I wouldn't initiate any contact of any kind. How else will you know if it's work or you? If work is the issue, he'll still contact you. It may be a short phone call or date, but he will contact you if he's still interested. If he's not interested, he won't contact you, but at least you'll know sooner rather than later.

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