Should I be worried?

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Registered: 11-30-2003
Should I be worried?
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Mon, 01-01-2007 - 7:13pm
I'm in love with a guy I've been dating for a few months (and he's in love with me). Everything is great except that he doesn't ever want to hold hands when we're out in public. He told me he just doesn't like to. Also, he doesn't do little random things like bringing me flowers or sending me expressions of love. I guess I'm wondering if he's really in love as deeply as he says because if he was, wouldn't he want to hold my hand and show me in little romantic ways that he loves me? Am I overreacting?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 01-01-2007 - 7:25pm

Not everyone shows love in the same way. I would strongly suggest that you read "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman, which will help you to understand how different people show and accept love.

Sheri

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Tue, 01-02-2007 - 7:04pm
The question is not whether he loves you or not....but does he love you the way you need to be loved? If he doesn't it will not work out in the long run because he'll resent you for trying to change him and you will resent him for not displaying affection the way you feel affection should be displayed. It works much better when both are in sync.