should i be worried?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2004
should i be worried?
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Sun, 11-21-2004 - 11:35am
I have been with my bf for alomost 7 months and we are in love, but the other day we were talking about something and he mentioned that he thought my good friend looked better then me. Now, I knew she did and it didn't really bother me at first, but now it kinda does. The thing that bothers me the most is he says that she's the reason why he wanted to have a 3some. I told him now I'll feel werid when we all hang out cause he looks at her that way and he was like no i wouldn't if u were there ( only if i wasn't in the room). So is this something I should worry about or just brush off?
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-12-2003
Sun, 11-21-2004 - 1:08pm
He's stated his case clearly but I'm not sure you heard it. He said that because of her, he'd like to have a 3some. Is this something you want? If not, this may not be the man for you. It's normal for us to look at other men or women and admire them, etc. But it's a matter of respect if your love is telling you other people look better than you... In my head, that's a no-no. It would have been one thing to say 'she's really good-looking' but once he brought you into comparison, that crossed the line.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2003
Sun, 11-21-2004 - 2:07pm
Hello jessishere, welcome to the board!

 
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2004
Mon, 11-22-2004 - 5:03pm
Thanx for the advice.. theres another thing that bothers me about him.. he doesnt seem to think that calling another girl who is his best friend that he only talks through texting on his cell, beautiful. I mean hello? ur with me ur not suppose to be doing that, i dont say that to other guys, and they also tell each other they miss each other cause she lives in nj and we live in ny and they havent seen each other in awhile.. i dunno..
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2003
Mon, 11-22-2004 - 5:34pm
You may be just a wee bit overly sensitive about all of this...