Should I Break it off

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Registered: 09-28-2004
Should I Break it off
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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 11:41am
I have been dating this man that I met on Match for about 1 1/2 years. He is not divorced, does not have much contact with his ex. Is working on getting a divorce. We only see each other on the weekends. We go on weekend trips together, dates for weddings. He calls me every night and when we get together it sometimes feels like he just needs me around so he is not alone (maybe I am feeling a little too sensitive) I care about him a lot and I thought he cared about me. It seems to me that after all this time he would be a little more committed to me then just being his date so he has someone on his arm. He has made no effort to meet my children. Feels he is not ready for that kind of committment since his divorce is not final. I feel he only needs me so he has someone with him, someone so his wife will think he is not spending all his time alone. As much as I care about him and I know I will fee hurt for a while, this relationship only makes me feel very empty inside. What do you think? Where do I go from here?
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Registered: 06-20-2004
Tue, 09-28-2004 - 11:45am
If a relationship makes you feel empty then I’d say it’s not a good relationship and you shouldn’t waste any more time with him.

For one he’s still married and you’ve been with him for a year and ½…come on, what’s taking him so long to get divorced? Sounds like someone likes the status quo.

I’d break it off you deserve better.

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Registered: 09-28-2004
Tue, 09-28-2004 - 11:58am
Thanks for your reply and I know you are right, but why would someone like status quo, you think he is hoping he wouldn't have to get divorced.