Should I call?

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Registered: 05-23-2003
Should I call?
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Wed, 07-21-2004 - 10:25am
I met a guy over July 4th weekend, we were actually both out of town (hundreds of miles away from home) but realized we lived in the same state...only about 45 minutes away from each other. I live in the city, and he lives a bit outside, but he has a lot of friends in the city. We hit it off, so we thought it would be fun to meet up. He called just a few days after we met. I was impressed, but had to go out of town for the weekend so we decided to try the next weekend. I was pretty sure he wouldn't follow through, especially because he lives outside of the city and would have to come in to town, but he followed through again.

We got a group of friends together (I thought this was best) and met out on Saturday and had a great time. I felt really comfortable with him, he made me laugh, etc. He was really sweet and made sure I was doing well, and even asked me out again while we were still out! We had not kissed or had any physical contact at this point, so again I liked what I saw because he was basing it on the fun we already had and nothing else.

We did end up kissing later, actually stayed up for hours after that talking, etc. He dropped me off at my place (hard to do because we had to take taxis as he didn't have his car) which I know was really expensive. So, when he left I just said goodbye...didn't follow up with anything else. That was early Sunday morning...like 6am, and it's now Wednesday. I know we all have our "rules" for calling, but I get mixed messages on whether it's cool for me to call or not. I had fun and would like to go out again,he seemed to want the same thing. I guess I was hoping he would have called before now, because he seemed to not be so concerned about the rules before now. Should I call or wait it out?

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Wed, 07-21-2004 - 11:39am

So the last time you spoke with him was Saturday night (early Sun. morning) at the end of your date?

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Wed, 07-21-2004 - 11:59am
Yes, the last time we spoke was Sat. night/early Sunday morning. He had accompanied me back to my apartment (his insistence) then he stayed (innocent, cuddling, etc.) for a little while but I said he should go. I feel bad because he ended up paying for both cab rides (I had no cash left), but he was kind and didn't say a word. I was SOO tired when he left in the morning, he even offered me a back rub before he left but I said no he should go and sent him on his way.

I know it's only Wednesday, and I'm not anxious over it, certainly have a very busy life...but I did have fun and just don't want to think that I was rude in any way or kind of pushed him out the door. I mean, I did but only because I was SOO exhausted. I also don't want to make up an excuse to call him, like to thank him or apologize but I would like to talk to him again. So, I also don't usually call guys and would prefer to wait but it's already Wed. and if he doesn't call by a certain time tonight, was wondering if I should just suck it up and call him? Or would that mean he's just not interested?