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Should i call
| Thu, 04-22-2004 - 3:36pm |
hI everyone,
I have a question and I need your help...I have recently come back to the dating seen and I met this great guy...took me out on several dates wouldn't let me pay for anything, wanted to do the things I wanted to see plus showed me his hobbies and what he wanted to do. Was the prefect gentleman!!!! Really wanted to get to know me, I never had a guy ask me so many question about my life. On one of our dates he told me he was going away to see some friends and my see this girl he was dating but they were just friends now ( acted like there was nothing to worry about). I called when I got back and he said he couldn't date anymore because of unresolved feeling for her and it wasn't fair to put me through it. I ask him if we could still talk and he said he'll call me sometime..My qusetion is thatin that conversation I was so shocked that this had hapened that I never got to say the things I wanted to say to him I was thinking of call him in about a week or so just to tell him that I really apperciate what he did and that I wish I had a chance to know him better but I understand and I also wanted to say that maybe someday the timing will be right and we can make a go of it again...What should I do? I know he cared but he needs space now, but I don't want him to think I didn't because I did..He was what I want in a guy...
I have a question and I need your help...I have recently come back to the dating seen and I met this great guy...took me out on several dates wouldn't let me pay for anything, wanted to do the things I wanted to see plus showed me his hobbies and what he wanted to do. Was the prefect gentleman!!!! Really wanted to get to know me, I never had a guy ask me so many question about my life. On one of our dates he told me he was going away to see some friends and my see this girl he was dating but they were just friends now ( acted like there was nothing to worry about). I called when I got back and he said he couldn't date anymore because of unresolved feeling for her and it wasn't fair to put me through it. I ask him if we could still talk and he said he'll call me sometime..My qusetion is thatin that conversation I was so shocked that this had hapened that I never got to say the things I wanted to say to him I was thinking of call him in about a week or so just to tell him that I really apperciate what he did and that I wish I had a chance to know him better but I understand and I also wanted to say that maybe someday the timing will be right and we can make a go of it again...What should I do? I know he cared but he needs space now, but I don't want him to think I didn't because I did..He was what I want in a guy...

This is so fustrating isn't it? and I know how much its hurting right now.
But, the timing isn't right for you two. No matter how much you call , talk to him, see him... it wont change his heart right now. he must on his own. the BEST way for ihm to do this is without you in his life ta all. sounds opposite of your instincts , right? But its the truth. He needs to see what life is like without you.
If he felt the connection was just as special as you thought it was, then he'll return. But don't expect this. move on with your life so you can start fresh if he does come back.
Count your blessing this is an honest guy and that he didnt lead you on.
Know there is someone out there who will be perfect and the timing will be right.
good luck
Not that the point needs to be emphasized, but please follow the advice of the previous 2 posters...do not call and this is important before you get in any deeper. There are advantages. You will maintain your dignity. You will become a mystery and may draw him back. This will give you time to re-evaluate your real needs and then if he does come back you can set some healthy boundaries. You are not less than him and you must not settle for less than really fulfills you and makes you feel comfortable. When you hold yourself in high esteem others will. Be firm. Men need to know it's not ok to just throw you a bone every once in awhile like they would an old dog.
Best wishes, Starlight