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Should I call?
| Wed, 03-17-2004 - 10:21pm |
I've been out on the dating scene for a few months now(I hate it!!!). After getting out of a 6 yr relationship 5 months before the wedding(posted Feb20)in which I was the heartbroken one.I've been dating quiet a bit since the break-up but nothing ever worked out. I finally met someone who is sweet & have the qualities I'm looking for in a man. We've went out as a group 3 times (Its been a long time since I've gone out & had a great time) and spoke on the phone a few times. My problem is he lives in VA & I live in NJ. I travel backandforth at least 2x a month. The last time I visited Va he had just gotten out of surgery and didn't feel like having company. I hadn't heard from him in two weeks & started to think he wasn't interested. This past week he called me after I texted him a VERY short message stating that I wished him well after the surgery. He did call me that same night. We spoke for about 1hr the next two days . As we we're saying our goodbyes he asked me to call him at the same time the following day. My question is Should I call him when he asked me to? I don't want him to think I'm desperate (He knows about my ex & my situation) but I also don't want him to think I'm not interested b/c I definitly am interested... I'm just use to playing hard to get with guys. I've been reading WAY too many books on dating & I'm getting confused about "starting" a new relationship.

I personally think when people don't call b/c they don't want to sound desperate they are playing games. We analyze ever little detail and situation about dating instead of just going with the flow.
In any event, if you agreed to call him then I agree with the others, go ahead and do it - it's just good manners. And don't follow dating advice books blindly. Think about them and decide what fits with your values and what doesn't. I think that if any book says not to call a guy when you said you would, I would ignore that advice b/c I think it's rude.