Should I call him to go out now?

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Registered: 08-07-2004
Should I call him to go out now?
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Sat, 08-07-2004 - 6:15am
Hi you all!

I would like your opinion on this one.

I'm dating a guy I met online. We met in the past 2 weeks for 2 times. One the previous week on Thursday, and also yesterday. It went really really well. He also said he liked me a lot. Thing is, last weekend he wanted to see me, but I said no because I was off town. But this weekend I'm not. He did not say anything for us to meet this weekend, but I would like it a lot. I was thinking in asking him to go tomorrow afternoon eat an icecream or something.

Am I doing right in doing it? It will be our third date, should I wait for him to call or it's ok for me to do it? I don't think is anything wrong in beeing the woman who calls the man to go out, but is too early to do that? What do you think?

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Sat, 08-07-2004 - 9:47am
I think there's nothing wrong with you calling. after all, he did call & ask you out, & you said no... so I guess it is your turn now.
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Sat, 08-07-2004 - 11:12am
If you just went out yesterday and he didn't ask you out for this weekend, then no, I probably wouldn't call. I'd wait another date or two before asking him out.

Sheri

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Sun, 08-08-2004 - 9:58am
Ok, so, I didn't call him, but yesterday at dinner time, we talk a little on msn messenger, he said liked my company a lot, and wants to see me and knowing me better. I answer saying I also liked his company and want to see him again. He didn't mentioned anything in meeting the weekend. Then, today I also talked with him on msn messenger, he said what he knows now about me he likes a lot, but again, no mention for us to meet today... he even didn't asked if I'm free! What's wrong with this guy???So, he's talking online with a girl he say is interested and wants to meet again, she answers positively back, and no mention for us to meet this weekend? Am I beeing paranoid or isn't this strange?? I just think when a man is interested in a woman ans she shows interest also, he grabs the oportunity and ask her to go out again, am I right? What kind of man would not say anything and leave her free to meet other guys? He's he dumb? I'm starting to feel something's not normal here.

What's going on here?

Edited 8/8/2004 10:00 am ET ET by maitema


Edited 8/8/2004 10:04 am ET ET by maitema

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Registered: 07-30-2004
Sun, 08-08-2004 - 11:58am
You're right.. it is weird...

on the other hand, maybe he has something planned out for this weekend? or maybe he's not very serious about you...

I would definitely call him. guys get shy/scared too, you know. especially when they risk & ask you out & you say "no" without offering an alternative.

so I see no harm in you taking the step. the worst thing that can happen is if he says no. but then- you won't have to speculate anymore...

I guess I just think that sitting & wishing he would ask you, is obviously not working out very well...
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Sun, 08-08-2004 - 12:37pm
Yes, I'd agree...something is weird here. You've made your interest in going out with him again clear, and he's not doing anything about it.

I'd back off from talking with him online...maybe the next time you chat, you could keep it short and sign off with something like, "I'd really enjoy getting together again...please give me a call when you're free to do so. Talk to you later" And then don't be available by IM. I think IM makes things too easy and casual for guys...make him pick up the phone and call you! If he's really interested, that would be no big deal to do so.

Sheri