Should I call him--or wait?!?!

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Should I call him--or wait?!?!
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Mon, 04-12-2004 - 8:01pm
Ok here it goes (sorry it's long) My friend has been trying to set me up with her brother for a good 6 months. When I first saw him I just showed up at this bar and I was like, "who are those two hot guys you were just talking to?" And she was like, "Oh, my brother and my cousin" So, since then she's been saying "hook up with my brother." I have always found him attractive, but I figured it's her brother.... I dunno. So time passes and one of his friends is having a party and she tells me to come because her brother wants me to come (apparently). After a few hours we start flirting and he's being a little touchy.. but I was pushing him off.. because it's my friends brother, and I don't want to be disrespectful. Two days later my friend calls me up and asks where I am because her brother and his friends want to meet up. We all meet up at a bar, he's being touchy again.. and then we go back to his friend's hottub. Again, he's being touchy. I go to leave and he grabs me in the street and kisses me. It was surprising (sort of), but welcomed. He asks if he could call me sometime and I said what about your sister and he said she didn't care. Which is true because I asked her earlier that evening if it was a big deal.

Soooooo, he calls me up on Thursday and asks what I'm doing on Friday, and tells me to call him.. so I do. A bunch of us meet up and went mini-golfing and then later out to a bar.. so we all ended up getting really trashed and he and I ended up making out the entire time (oops). I don't really remember how the conversation went, but I remember him asking me if Sunday or Tuesday was better for me for a date.. I said Tuesday. Time passed and at 4 when the bar closed we went to a diner.. ate blah blah blah.. I was getting out of the car, kissed some more.. then he said, "Tuesday, don't make any plans, I'll you tomorrow." Well, he never called.... sooooooooooo, I'm wondering if maybe he was so drunk he forgot he made these plans or what? My friend said I should call him, her boyfriend said I should wait since its been a few days. I really want to go out with him on a date.. he's a great guy. I would normally call, but I don't want to come off as pushy or overly interested if it's not mutual. What do you guys think? Thanks a lot.


(I posted this in another thread, but I wanted to get as many opinions as possible!)

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Mon, 04-12-2004 - 8:56pm
Well, to me it wouldn't be too appealing if I guy I was interested in was probably too drunk too remember he asked me out. What exactly are you looking for here - a sexually oriented fling or a relationship? If it's the latter I think you should rethink the gameplan with a little less bar hopping
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Mon, 04-12-2004 - 9:15pm
Well.. he just called and we have plans for tomorrow. I wasn't doing anything bad in the hottub. And in his defense.. all 6 of us got ridiculously drunk. I'm sorry, I'm 22.. that's what some of us do on weekends as recreation. Thanks for your advice though :)