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Should I call or wait for him to call ..
| Wed, 06-09-2004 - 12:21am |
Last week it was my last time at a company I was working for 5 months. The thing it was temporary and I was covering a maternity leave. I made good friends there, even a few admirers I had. There was a particular guy, that even though he directly dont work inside the company, do work for the company, his duties are to go to the company twice a day to pick up correspondence and do other work duties, since he is a messenger of a branch office of the company I was working for. He always flirted me, hinting me he likes me, I dont know really if he was just flirting or he was really into me, and like me, he never told me straight. But his flirts were a everyday thing.
I left the company last Thrusday. When I told the guy I was leaving the company, he told me how was that possible, he could not believe it.
I left the company last Thrusday. When I told the guy I was leaving the company, he told me how was that possible, he could not believe it.
We exchanged phone numbers and eventhough he does not have cell phone, just his home ph number, I do have cell phone and I gave it to him. He told me he would call me. I know is soon because I just left the company last week, but do you think that I should call him, if the time passes and he does not call, or I just wait until he wants to call me, if he remembers to call me.
If I call him what to say? It will be the first time I call this guy. I dont want to sound desperate or to evident for him, I jsut want to sound like a friend.

That is why I wanted to know if I should call him instead, not now is too soo but later in time, like 2 weeks from now or in a month, just to say hi to him, greet him. Of course he will be surprised that I call him, he wont be expecting. I dont want to sound desperate or too obvious.
So I asked him: "Hey what was that noise?" Then he said: They are my coworkers who are speaking and because this cell phone catches a lot of reception is why you hear noise".
Then he mentioned the name of the messenger. Coincidentaly, at the moment this man called me the messenger was at the company and in his office. The guy who called me, told me indeed the messenger was next to him. I told this guy to tell the messenger I send my greetings and then the guy said: "No way, why you want to say hi to him? Then he joked and told me he is jealous. Again I told him to tell the guy I say Hi. Indeed the guy told him that on my behalf (well that is what I thought he did), but the messenger did not know who the guy was talking to. he thought it was somebody else but me.
Afterwards I finished the conversation with this guy and minutes later the phone rang. This time it was the messenger, I did not expect him to call me. He told me that after I finished talking with the other guy, he (the messenger) asked the other guy who was he talking to minutes earlier and only at that time he told him he was talking to me. When I told the guy over the phone to give my regards to the messenger, he never did.
The messenger called me to tell me how come Im talking to the other guy, how come Im interested in him (which is not true at all, the guy is married as I told you I kept talking to him very polite, I was not going to hang up, that would have been rude, we just talked about how was I doing after leaving work, that was the focus on the conversation). Either the was jealous or again he was just flirting and teasing with me this time over the phone. I mean I never expected the messenger calling me right after I finished the conversation with the other man. Why did he call, is that a sign he is interested or again he was just flirting?
Then the messenger ask me when I was going to visit the company in order for him to see me again.
That phone call from him was so unexpected and weird I could not make sense out of it.
What do you think?
I dont understand him, at work, he flirted with me constanly and every day. From his hints I end up thinking he is interested in me, he wanted to exchange phone numbers once I left the company, we did. Then what happened the yesterday, he called me unexpectadly for the incident that just happened with another former co worker. At the end of the conversation we said to each other: "Ok, good bye and lets keep calling". During the time I worked in that company, he never ever asked me out to go out on a Saturday, for example.
So Im thinking he is very shy to act. I guess that If I call him first some day he will be thrilled to hear me but I dont want to be the one always with the initiative. I think he is very very shy to ask me out, or he is embarrased I guess.