Should I call or waiting for the call?

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Registered: 06-25-2004
Should I call or waiting for the call?
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Wed, 08-11-2004 - 11:10am
Long story short: I've been on several dates with this guy, much of them sheduled on IM because sometimes we both talk online during work time. He's going on vacations tomorrow off town, and last Monday he asked me if he can see me today after work before he go. I said yes, but we did not talk about the hour and the place to meet. Yesterday we talk on IM very quickly just to say Hi, because I had to leave cause most of my job it's outside the office. Today he didn't came to IM also because he's already on holidays. So, should I call him to set the hour and the place, or wait for him to do it? Since we've been scheduled this things online, now I don't know what to do. I want so much to see him tonight, but I don't to look desperate. What to do, should I wait for him to call me or send me a text message or should I do it? This may seem a silly question, but I really never know how to behave in the early dating phase of the relationships. Thanks.
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Wed, 08-11-2004 - 11:42am
Now did it sound like he wanted to stop by YOUR place, or have you stop by HIS, or a third place altogether? If he's going away, he's going to need time to pack his stuff, unless he's been packed for a week. If you haven't heard from him by say, 3pm, give him a call to ask how the packing is going, did he need a hand with anything, and did he still want to see you before leaving. Then you ask when and where if he says yes.

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Registered: 06-25-2004
Wed, 08-11-2004 - 11:55am
Well, alison, we do not have yet that degree of intimacy. He never stopped at my house or me at his. We agree in see each other today, just do not talk about the hour and the place. And he didn't said anything today about it. I don't want to look desperate, but wouldn't he already have called or text message if he's really interested in see me? Or is he waiting for me to show that interest? Is it ok for me to send him a message with my prefered hour and place?
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 08-11-2004 - 2:48pm
He asked you to meet so I definitely don't think it is too desperate looking to call and check up on the time. He is likely just busy with packing and getting ready to go. Just keep the call causual and say something like you know you'd talked about getting together before he goes away and wanted to firm up the time and place. If you call him 15 times, that is desperate! Ok, calling twice would probably look desperate but just checking in once is not a big deal.

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Registered: 08-30-1999
Wed, 08-11-2004 - 3:45pm
You should follow your user name and employ "less talk, more action".

Just call him.

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Wed, 08-11-2004 - 6:45pm
Well, I hope you did make the call and found out when/ where to meet him. Let us know the outcome!

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