Should I contact him?

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Registered: 05-02-2007
Should I contact him?
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Tue, 07-24-2007 - 3:54pm

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Tue, 07-24-2007 - 5:09pm
I wouldn't contact him directly. I know the couple you are both friends with are going through a rough time, but I would chat with your friend (the woman) about him and find out what his deal is and see if he mentioned you to the guy. If he didn't ask for your number then he probably wasn't interested at that moment in dating because of the 2 hour drive. If you want, you can have your friend talk to her SO and see if they can pass your phone number on to the guy. But dont rule out dating others inthe meantime.
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Registered: 05-02-2007
Tue, 07-24-2007 - 5:46pm

Thank you for the reply!


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Registered: 07-08-2003
Wed, 07-25-2007 - 9:17am

It sounds like you want to contact him, so why not? I'm not into all of these dating "rules", I think if you play those games you could miss out on meeting a really nice guy! What's the worst that could happen? He doesn't reply? At least then you know it wasn't meant to be. I think he might be impressed that you contacted him.

I say go for it!




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Registered: 05-02-2007
Wed, 07-25-2007 - 12:02pm

Michelle,


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Wed, 07-25-2007 - 12:33pm

I'm new to the dating scene (recently divorced after being with my dh since HS), and I'm too busy and too old to play games. If I see someone I like, I wouldn't hesitate to initiate contact. I know some women won't do that, but I'm not like other women & I've found that many guys like that. I'd rather get shot down than chance missing a wonderful guy, KWIM??

And who knows what he's thinking? Maybe he thought you'd see each other again soon...maybe he's afraid to ask his friend about you.... Take a chance...what's the harm!




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Registered: 05-02-2007
Wed, 07-25-2007 - 1:18pm

Yeah I think I am just going to contact him. But I might wait till Friday late in the day to do it. I don’t check my myspace on the weekend so if he denies me or doesn’t respond and we happen to see each other this weekend ( highly unlikely but you never know)

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Registered: 07-08-2003
Wed, 07-25-2007 - 1:24pm
Good luck, keep us posted!!!!



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Registered: 04-23-2007
Wed, 07-25-2007 - 1:58pm

Hey justanothergirl08,

I know that you received many replies here, which encouraged you to contact him, but if I were you, I wouldn't do it. From your story it sounds like your guy is a very confident and determined individual. He definetly did sweep you of your feet with his charm and knew exactly what he was doing. So, why would a guy like that be shy and not ask for your number? I think it could be some kind of a test, or maybe there is really a good reason why he didn't ask for your number. Men are men, and if they want something, they go for it. Yes, it might sound like playing games, but there are certain rules that you should follow. If you try to contact him, you might scare him away. I wouldn't even mention anything to your friend. You need to keep it really cool. I know I wasn't there and don't know anything, but I think there is a reason why he didn't ask for your number and you just have to be patient. There are so many guys out there, so start dating others. If he contacts you, it's awesome, if he doesn't; then, move on. By the way, how many days has it been since you've met him?

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Wed, 07-25-2007 - 2:51pm

I dont blame you for not talking to your friend since she is going through a hard time right now. Some people dont mind focusing on other things when they are feeling blue because it takes their mind off of their troubles...but I dont' know your friend or how she handles the bad times.

"I also made it clear when I was asking about him that I was interested and she could pass that info along if he asked."---> very cool.

Why not get a group of people together on the weekend and issue him an invitation via email or telephone?

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Registered: 07-21-2006
Thu, 07-26-2007 - 5:59pm

THROW THAT STUPID ()*$)@(#$*)(@#$*()@# BOOK IN THE TRASH!!!! I can't imagine how many potential relationships didn't work out or never got off the ground because of that crap. My BF did not contact me for SIX WEEKS after we met!!!! And we didn't have our first date til 3 weeks after that, AND we only saw each other once or twice a month for the first six months! Now that's a bit extreme, I must admit, but once I got over that STUPID book (thank you, therapist) I realized that he was actually VERY into me. He just had to finish school before he could spend any real time. And once he did; whoah Nellie, it's been amazing. Now we've been together a year and a half and are very happy.
***If you don't know where you are going, any road will take you there. Lewis Carroll (1832-1898)***

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