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Should I contact him?
| Thu, 08-25-2005 - 11:00pm |
Hello everyone,
I went out with this guy who is not from the U.S. He is four years younger than me, and is here for an internship. He will return to his country in two months. I am American but have citizenship elsewhere as well, and am contemplating the possibility of moving elsewhere, if not now, maybe one day down the road or maybe not, I don't know. Anyway, I think it nice to meet people from other places because I figure you never know in life what could happen, and hey, it might be helpful to have a friend or someone you know who lives somewhere else (overseas).
I met him about two months ago, and we lost contact a few weeks ago. We saw each other three times through mutual activities. Of these three times, one of them was sort of like a date, although I would consider it more of a hangout since the guy lacks dating skills. The last time I heard from him, he said he would e-mail me, but he did not. I was the last one to contact him. Now, there are several reasons why I would like to contact him again. I like him, and I kind of don't want to lose him, (although I think lose is a big word since I don't really know him), even if as just a person that I know were I one day to move from here... Anyway, I know this all sounds bad since he never got in touch with me again... but, I wonder. Before we got together the last time, he contacted me multiple times because he wanted to see me, and it almost seemed like he was afraid I wouldn't go out with him for some reason. There was some intimate interaction but no sleeping together. Since I don't know him too well, I don't know what to do... I don't know that anything would change by contacting him again, and I wouldn't know what to say either... I also know he is younger, and it has crossed my mind that all he could have wanted was sex; but, I'm not so sure. I am afraid that sometimes I am confident, and that could have made him feel insecure... for example, he wanted to know how many guys I went out with, and if I had ever just kissed a guy in a bar, and how many times did I do that sort of thing that I did with him... Instead of being discreet, I kind of told him the truth which is every now and then, or sometimes... I have a feeling he did not like that response... or, he obviously changed his mind for whatever reason. I don't know what the reason is. Anyway, to give you an idea, this is a good-looking guy, he is younger than me, and I'm really not entirely convinced that I want to contact him because I don't really want to give him the satisfaction or annoyance, but when I did contact him the last time, it was brief... maybe this time I could say something more meaningful... or try to find out what happened...
What do you think? Should I contact him?
I went out with this guy who is not from the U.S. He is four years younger than me, and is here for an internship. He will return to his country in two months. I am American but have citizenship elsewhere as well, and am contemplating the possibility of moving elsewhere, if not now, maybe one day down the road or maybe not, I don't know. Anyway, I think it nice to meet people from other places because I figure you never know in life what could happen, and hey, it might be helpful to have a friend or someone you know who lives somewhere else (overseas).
I met him about two months ago, and we lost contact a few weeks ago. We saw each other three times through mutual activities. Of these three times, one of them was sort of like a date, although I would consider it more of a hangout since the guy lacks dating skills. The last time I heard from him, he said he would e-mail me, but he did not. I was the last one to contact him. Now, there are several reasons why I would like to contact him again. I like him, and I kind of don't want to lose him, (although I think lose is a big word since I don't really know him), even if as just a person that I know were I one day to move from here... Anyway, I know this all sounds bad since he never got in touch with me again... but, I wonder. Before we got together the last time, he contacted me multiple times because he wanted to see me, and it almost seemed like he was afraid I wouldn't go out with him for some reason. There was some intimate interaction but no sleeping together. Since I don't know him too well, I don't know what to do... I don't know that anything would change by contacting him again, and I wouldn't know what to say either... I also know he is younger, and it has crossed my mind that all he could have wanted was sex; but, I'm not so sure. I am afraid that sometimes I am confident, and that could have made him feel insecure... for example, he wanted to know how many guys I went out with, and if I had ever just kissed a guy in a bar, and how many times did I do that sort of thing that I did with him... Instead of being discreet, I kind of told him the truth which is every now and then, or sometimes... I have a feeling he did not like that response... or, he obviously changed his mind for whatever reason. I don't know what the reason is. Anyway, to give you an idea, this is a good-looking guy, he is younger than me, and I'm really not entirely convinced that I want to contact him because I don't really want to give him the satisfaction or annoyance, but when I did contact him the last time, it was brief... maybe this time I could say something more meaningful... or try to find out what happened...
What do you think? Should I contact him?

Thanks for your reply. The last time I contacted him, I did e-mail him. I also am ashamed to confess that in a moment of weakness I called his cell phone and left him a very brief message to say hello about two weeks ago...! I know, it was wrong! But, I think I did something or he changed his mind because in the beginning he wouldn't stop contacting me until I actually met up with him.
THANKS