Should I contact the old flame??
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| Wed, 06-28-2006 - 8:58pm |
There was this guy that I dated back in high school and I just found him on myspace. He was that one stand out relationship you have as a teenager. Basically, things were going great and he just stopped calling. Of course I was heartbroken, but after that healed I've always wondered wondered, 'Why?' since he was never a mean person. A friend even told me he asked about me a year later, but I've never heard from him since. I think he was going through a lot of parental problems and from the looks of his profile, he's not in a great place right now.
I've moved on: graduated college and am in a committed, loving relationship now. Even though it was years and years ago, I'm tempted to send this guy a message. I guess I've just always wanted closure. Even if I kept it casual, would that be too akward or too "stalker-ish"?

I wonder why would you want to jeopardize the committed and loving relationship you have now to get closure from a teenage relationship? You know, as teeagers people do things that don't always make sense. He may have thought that he could have a relationship with you, but then he found another girl that he liked better and he stopped calling you. That's the behavior of a teen age boy.
If you see that he doesn't appear to be in a good place right now, by his profile, why would you even want to contact him? Leave things in the past and give yourself closure. It happened years ago and it was one more experience.
mandybay...
PG doesn't understand your line of thought at all! And definitely disagrees with your intention to contact the old b/f.
If you're in a happy in your current relationship now...why "open up an old wound" just to obtain a little closure? You could possibly jeopardize what you have?
The man you dated in high school was part of an earlier chapter of your life...and THAT CHAPTER IS OVER!
Please live the chapter of your life you're CURRENTLY IN...and don't go backwards!
Pianoguy
No it certainly wouldn't be stalker-ish, there's a good chance he'd welcome the message but if you're in a commited, loving relationship now, do you want to do anything that might threaten that - as in, old
feelings returning?