Should I Date My Best Friend?
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Should I Date My Best Friend?
| Mon, 07-12-2004 - 4:20pm |
I have a very close male friend that I've known for four years. I initially started conversating with him because I thought he was cute and I needed help with school work. We became very close ever since. We know each other inside and out, and he is very dear to my heart. Anyway, I was spending some time with him at his house and we started talking about the old days, how we met...somehow the conversating ended up being about what he thinks of me. He then went to an area in his room where he keeps his memorabilia and pulled out 3 sheets of paper with writing on it and handed it to me. I read it, and basically he confessed these strong feelings for me that he had ever since the first year we met. After I read it, I told him I liked him too, but the problem is that I'm in the middle of a love triangle. I'm in the process of trying to figure out whether I should remain friends with my ex or let him go, and I'm also trying to figure out my relationship with another guy that I'm interested in and who is interested in me. But my relationship with my best friend has everything that a lasting relationship needs: trust, honesty, committment, closeness, companionship. He's a great person, funny, about something, and fun to be around. Physically, he is good looking, but he is soooo skinnny. His being skinny is a turn off for me because I am very shapely. Quite frankly, that is the only problem I have with him, he has everything else going for him. He is someone that I could probably have a serious relationship with because I am well aware that the best kind of relationships are the ones that are built on a solid friendship, but I'm not ready to be serious with anybody right now. So I don't know what to do. I have feelings for him too, and it's something to consider, but the timing is kind of bad right now considering the other guys that I have in my life, and his being skinny isn't right for me. Am I wrong for feeling this way??? Am I making a mistake????? HELP!

If you find something in a person that you cannot get past, is it really fair to lead them on?