Should I date the older man?
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Should I date the older man?
| Tue, 07-06-2004 - 12:59pm |
I was recently at one of my sister's big fling parties. I am 20, and there was a man there who was very interested in me. It all started off with small talk, and from there he was almost like head-over heels. I have NEVER been hit on before in my life. So although it was flattering, my sister also found out that he is in his 30's. (30 something is all we found out.)
Throughout the entire evening he was so cordial, and so very interesting. He followed me everywhere. By the end of the night, he would not stop touchy-feeling me. Arms, back, shoulders. I know that he is really interested in me, but is it okay to give a call back on such an older guy?
I have never had experience with this, and I am afraid that my own feelings of being flattered may get into the way of my logical judgement.
Should I just have dinner with him? Should I call him? What's to be done???
Please help, I am open to any idea!!! Thanks all!
Throughout the entire evening he was so cordial, and so very interesting. He followed me everywhere. By the end of the night, he would not stop touchy-feeling me. Arms, back, shoulders. I know that he is really interested in me, but is it okay to give a call back on such an older guy?
I have never had experience with this, and I am afraid that my own feelings of being flattered may get into the way of my logical judgement.
Should I just have dinner with him? Should I call him? What's to be done???
Please help, I am open to any idea!!! Thanks all!

My experience is this when I was 20 I dated a guy for awhile who was 34 and it was fun at first but we never really clicked over time. I was the one who opted out. I found that dating closer to my age at that time was way more fruitful.
However, now that I am older and wiser I have a boyfriend who is older and wiser and we have experienced some of the same and understand on an emotional and maturity level our life experiences. This would have never worked when I was a younger woman but it works now.
I would recommend that you go for someone your own age. If this guy calls you, just politely say, "while I find you to be a nice guy, I have to be honest that I'm looking for someone my own age." I have said this directly to men myself and they have responded well. This guy seemed overly touchy-feely towards you, and while it may be nice to get the attention- it's a sign to me that he would be wanting to get you into bed on the first *date*. If he was so clingy on the first encounter, imagine how he would be if you agree to a date?
I say move on and don't give him your number. If you happen to see him again, tell him you are not interested. Find someone your age.
Good luck
Alison