Should I drive an hour on third date?

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Registered: 12-26-2006
Should I drive an hour on third date?
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Tue, 12-26-2006 - 9:46pm

I have been on two dates with this one guy. Things are going very well. He's sweet and we are getting along great. He called tonight (Tues) to ask if I wanted to get together this wknd. I said I could do Friday. He said friends of his are having some people over to dinner and would I like to do that. I said yes - the one caveat is he lives an hour away. So my choices are 1). Go to the dinner, then drive home after 2). Go to the dinner and stay at his place 3). Ask him if it would be ok if we do something near where I live instead (he already said if I would prefer that it would be fine).

I'd like to go to the dinner. It's just the after part that I am concerned about. I have no intention of having sex with him at this stage. And I think it's completely possible to stay over without having sex. He's really sweet and kind of shy and wouldn't pressure me in any way. However, is it better to just change the plan altogether? I can't decide. I REALLY like this guy!

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 12-26-2006 - 10:06pm
Go to the dinner, enjoy yourself. Then find yourself a wonderful hotel in the area and get a good night's sleep before you drive home the next morning.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-27-2006 - 1:43am

I would go to the dinner (because IMO it's a good thing to meet a guy's friends) and drive home afterwards. Don't drink alcohol and have some coffee before you leave for home.

Under no circumstances would spending the night at his place be a good choice, IMO.

Sheri

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 12-27-2006 - 9:27am
I see no reason why you should not go to the dinner party and then drive home. Just don't get drunk at the party! That way there will be no confusion about your intentions and no resentments created. Iri
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Wed, 12-27-2006 - 9:35am
Why not talk to him and tell him all the things you've told us - communication is the most important ingredient and from what you' said he'll be understanding of your feelings
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