Should I end my 6yr. relationship?
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| Mon, 06-21-2004 - 10:47am |
I met my current boyfriend when I was 18 (I am now 24) I dated him throughout 4 years of college, and we moved in together after a year and half of dating - we have been living together for like 5 years now. Before dating him, I only had one other boyfriend, (I was 16yrs old and it lasted about 2 years)
Since we've been living together for 5 years, we have raised 2 dogs together that are like our children. We have a great aprtment and we get along perfectly. I always assumed that i would marry him because we are so compatible, everyone is in awe of our relationship. however, for the past year or so, our sex life has been tapering off to where now it is almost non-exsistent. the problem is more with me - i have absolutly no desire at all for any sex or any kind of physical touching at all. we hardly kiss, or anything... its like living with your best friend who happens to be male, and you share a bed. I am not even desiring other guys, i just feel bored with the relationship and its gotten to the point where i am considering moving out and on with my life.
the problem is: will i ever find anyone as compatible to me as he is? is this worth leaving my great apt and 2 'children' (dogs) and i know he will be absolutly crushed if I do because he still thinks we are getting married and says "when we have kids" but now i think... do i want to spend the rest of my life being bored and never enjoying sex? what do i do? im totally torn here...

Try on his shoes: do you want him to stay because of a great apartment and some dogs? Or do you want him to be in the relationship because you're the one? If the guy knew it was about the apartment and because you were scared of life, do you think he would stay??