Should I fight for him?

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Registered: 07-07-2004
Should I fight for him?
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Wed, 07-07-2004 - 11:09am
I'm affraid to loose the love of my life for good. I met him 3 years back. He wanted to date me but at the time I was interested in a friend of his and only considered him as a friend. As I got to know him better I fell maddly in love with him only by then he had found out about my crush on his friend and was too proud to date me ... feeling that he was second best. He's always been my #1 since then. We are soul mates, we feel good around each other, we have fun together laughing at each other's jokes, we have the same passion for music and spend hours talking about it. Over the last few years we have had several flings but whenever things seamed to be getting serious he would back out saying that I liked his friend and not him. A year ago I started dating someone and so did he. I have now finished my relationship, he however is still going out with this other girl. Each time we meet magic happens, we both radiate with joy! The feelings are there, no doubt about it. And as he said the last time I saw him only his girlfriend seperates us! I don't want to split them up ... but I love him. I want to be with him. If I felt that he didn't have feelings for me I would close the door and get on with my life ... try to forget about him. But I know he feels the same way about me. What should I do? Should I tell him how I feel? He's the one for me, he complete's me like no other, I don't want to loose him to this other girl ...
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Wed, 07-07-2004 - 11:19am
Move on. This guy is casting you a line and you are falling for it. He knows that you had liked his friend and at every opportunity he has stuck that in your face. This guy doesn't want you, he wants to see you grovel and beg for him. You're not in love with him, you're in love with the idea of him. The: "we want what we can't have" syndrome. This guy has a girlfriend. He's not dumping her for you. And if he did, wouldn't you be worried he'd dump you for someone else?

This guy is playing you because he feels angry that you didn't like him in the first place and is trying to make you hurt the way he did.

You don't need that in your life. Move on and find someone who doesn't need to play games.

Don't fight for him, he's not worth it.

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Wed, 07-07-2004 - 12:15pm
Hello alexstilwell!